Being Loved and Love

You know what irt is like to be loved; but, what is it like to love? At the present, it is best to avoid learning how to love until you can fully understand how to love properly. Some people presently are using a "Love" as a weapon to hurt and kill . You do not need to be a victim of that. When you are ready to "Let yourself go completely"; or, more specifically, to mutually surrender yourself to someone, usually it is love. That is he first part of eighther love, or total destruction. It is well known females love making babies. It is their instinct occasionally. I will write steps towards a complete relationship.

The Etiology of Love

When a male and female, male and male, female and female, or other combination attract each other and a persistance of desire to be close to each other exists, it may be the beginning ; or display , of love. A series of tests is necessary to determine the actual relationship towards each other. In the present society, insufficient knowledge of a person may lead to disaster. It is absolutely necessary to determine every potential for a negative relationship and avoid it or learn to divert or control it. Infatuation; and the avoidance of it, is very difficult for extremely beautifull females and overly handsome males. Those 2 groups will experience the absolutely MOST difficult times attempting to attract; and keep, a partner. Many things are complicating of these types of relationships. Also, the greatest tests of all on a partner is equally as well experienced. The "ugly", "strange", or other categorized type of people will not necessarily have much difficulty finding a partner as finding a correct one. Many psychologically disadvantaged [ not necessarily of a criminal nature] people will arise to fill the relationship "void". It is NOT important to have a relationship until it is desired. Presently, many people are criticized because they had no sex, no boyfriend or girlfriend, or any relationship. In actuality, only the most naive, moronic, masochistic, or emotionally unstable people will have a relationship before they need one; or, at a too young age. Many hazards are present with those persons criticisms should be ignored; or, at the very most, attacked by statements such as " I have full control over myself. I don't need anyone. You are the one who is weak to need someone.". Forced relationships are created from excessive lonliness and sadness. Friends may alleviate the sadness without a relationship. If lonliness is excessive, masturbation while simultaneously thinking "Do I REALLY need this?" may help. After realization you are not ready for a child, lonliness disappears or lessens. Once a realization you are not ready for a relationship, you will not have the desire. A second forced relationship arises when a friend attempts to utilize you for his or her infatuation, love, or as a sexual partner. That type of relationship may be very hazardous.

Description of a Relationship

A relationship is a process where a male and female are attracted towards each other. Sometimes a mutuality exists; but, predominantly a loss of control over oneself is te effectuator of a relationship today. A relationship may be created from love, infatuation, semi attraction, or other means. All will be described in my articles. The relationship is generally formed when an affinity exists between one or more partners and results in a selfish type bind. Jealousy sometimes exists in extreme relationships.

Relationships: Step 2

[1]Learn About each other and test each other for compatability. [2] If you really want to have sex: [1] separate your mind, love, spirit and libido. A person may have sex without love. Prostitutes, x-rated video stars, special friends, and others do such as wife swappers. So do many people who desire temporary sex. The 1960's "free love" was based on a non relationship type of sexual release. It is best to be more conservative presently due to extreme hazards of sexual contact

Relationships Step 1

Always remember the 3 basic steps of a relationship. These are the 3 steps: [1] Keep your mind closed to everybody. Your mind is YOU. It is your personality, beliefs, thoughts, memory, and everything else about you. Only YOU have the right to change it when you want to. [2] Keep your love closed at first. Go slowly. There is plenty of time to be in love. Your love chooses many people to be in "love" with. Your mind choose the one single person who is best for you. [3] Keep your relationship sex free. To love someone, you do not have to have sex with them. Sex is for making babies; not love. Love enhances sex. There were 3 couples I remember who were married. One was married for 58 years. One was married 73 years. and one couple was married 38 years. NONE of these 3 couples ever had sex. They died as virgins. THAT is how love is supposed to be.Love first; then sex. THAT will be the safest to prevent heartbreak. If someone does not love you without sex, it is likely that person only loves sex. Stay away from that type of person. Learn about each other completely. Find out what you like and do not like about each other. Discuss it with each other. That way, no surprises or divorces could happen easily.